- How many of you feel like you've reached your sweet spot, only to lose it two weeks later?
- How many of you have been wide open only to eat and get stuck the next day five bites into a meal?
- How many of you have been bouncing back and forth between the same four damn pounds for the last month...I weighed in at 199 at Christmas. It's April and I'm 190 this morning.
Here's the deal. It sucks, it's a struggle, but you know what? I weigh 190 pounds today. I weighed at least 283 this time last year, probably more. Turns out there are frustrations even when you lose nearly 100 pounds. Still feel like you're not cute enough...been on match.com for three months, not a single date. STUPID BOYS, I'm CUTE! ;-)
I just listened to Angie's vlog on perfectionism. I feel like when I look at Ang and Amy, they look so thin. Why is it that they are still struggling? But there are probably people that look at me and think "Why does Jen think she's struggling". I think we all deserve a huge hug. Not to sound completely cheesy, but you know what? We realized that we had an issue with food. We took huge steps in deciding to have surgery and jumped through many hoops to get it done. Whether you've lost 10 pounds or 100, or reached goal (amazing Catherine), we have all struggled, we have all made it through and we are all amazing and gorgeous women who are trying each and every day to make ourselves healthier inside and out. Celebrate where we've come and where we're going. Things may continue to be a struggle, but we're coming out the other side healthier, more confident (in my case) and at the very least on this earth for longer than we were 100 pounds ago.
xoxo
Very thought-provoking....
ReplyDeleteI'm feeling frustrated too. I just blogged about it right before I read your post! I am still looking for my sweet spot. Grrrr....
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post Jenny! We do need a big group hug!!
ReplyDeleteVery encouraging post... thx
ReplyDeleteYes: let's email about lunch.My fill is on Firday fyi.
Such an honest post Jen, we've all been there. My friend keeps asking me, "what can you eat? what can't you eat?" and as irritating as it is to keep telling her I can eat anything I want to, that's not really the truth. I might be able to eat a whole cheeseburger today, but tomorrow I may only get a protein shake in.
ReplyDeleteThe main reason, I am assuming, is that like all the other muscles in our body, our stomach is effected by hormones and our daily stresses. So, if your neck is sore and your shoulders are tight, chances are so is your band!
I hope that your amazing weight-loss picks up again soon, but you have already come so far in such a little amount of time- almost 100 pounds in 8 months, 8 MONTHS!!! That's incredible and don't forget it for two seconds.
You're amazing.
Big hug for Jen!!! Such a great post!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right, we give ourselves such a hard time and we are doing an amazing job..we are all healthier people now because of our choices. We just never really look at that, we see the immediate struggle and not what is 5 or 10 years down the road. Your plateau will break, I know it will. And those boys are stupid, geez what is the deal?
ReplyDeleteEverything you said was so needed right now.
ReplyDeleteYou nailed it.
Thanks Jenny.
As someone that is still waiting to get banded, it is hard to hear that even after I've lost 100 lbs, I could still be struggling. I guess the key is to take it one step at a time and tackle each challenge as it comes.
ReplyDeleteWhat Amy are you talking about? I know it aint me...but lets pretend it is! lol....
ReplyDeleteRemember my Zen eating post on Monday...
hahahahah...well come Tuesday I was leaving the land of Zenville. Cheetos last night for example and today...O M G. Two and a half krispy creme donuts...which I dont even really like! I ate them like a demon possessed.
Nutso!
love you pretty girl!
Great post!
Right on Jen - we do get so tough on ourselves sometimes. We need a big group hug.
ReplyDeleteFar out - talk about being on a parrallel. I just wrote about this same thing this morning. Whatever weight we have lost so far has to be celebrated. We are frigging amazing and don't pat ourselves on the back nearly enough. And I agree.. you are bloody cute.. Where have all the good men gone? (sound like that line from an old song!!)
ReplyDeleteI hear you on the finicky restriction! Wednesday, band was practically closed shut, couldn't get anything but liquids down. Last night, went to dinner with the hubby and I could have eating the entire menu, today and tonight, tight shut again!!! It can be super frustrating!
ReplyDeleteLike I told Angie today, we can all tell you how wonderful and beautiful you are until we are blue in the face. The comments are wonderful, but the frustration unfortunately is something that we all handle differently and need to come to terms with differently.
Also, like I told Angie, we love you...just as you are. I think so many of us were fortunate enough to have some REALLY good weight loss fairly quickly (within the first 6-9 months) and in reality that is bound to slow down and when it does I think it takes our brains just a bit to catch up to getting used to not seeing those big numbers on the scale. Just think, a year ago if you would have hit this plateau you most likely would have given up and that's when bad things start to happen. But, you aren't doing that and that is a huge milestone that you should be paying attention to as well. You are already re-training your brain somewhat and that's great ;)
Love you lots!
I so wish you weren't struggling too, but it is wonderful that we're all there together in a way. I love you and can't believe you think I'm skinny, haha. But I'd love you even if you didn't! All those things have happened with my band - hello I had one week of so tight I lost 9lbs... and two weeks of so loose that I've gained half of it back. I am sending you giant hugs and amber waves and the knowledge we will continue to rock this shit. xxxxx
ReplyDeleteI have been on that super fast weight loss time right before and after surgery and it just came crashing to a halt. I haven't lost a pound in over a week. It is amazing how beholden we are to that damn scale. Girl, you are a cutie and the right guy is just around the corner. I hated when people said that when I was single, but I can't help it. It's true!!!
ReplyDeleteEverything you said-so true. Great post. And lots of {{{HUGS}}} back at you. Stupid boys!
ReplyDeleteJen! GREAT post! I love you! The struggles on this journey will make GOAL so much sweeeeeeter!
ReplyDeleteEverything you said is so true! I have been really struggling too, it's so frustrating! You are doing great, you are beautiful and you will meet that perfect Mr Right soon! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteEverything you said, I have felt/feel. This is a constant struggle... but I know for myself I have many more days I feel good then I do feeling bad.
ReplyDeleteRemember how far you have come and keep it up!
Perfect!
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