Hey Everybody! I'm still doing great. The weight is slowly creaping down, but it's going down and that's the important part.
I had an interesting realization today. I'm nearing 39...and am still single. I honestly don't feel bad about this. I'm a beautiful, successful, funny, caring gal and it's clear that I just haven't found the right person for me. I deserve to be picky, I deserve to wait for the right one. I'm not the girl that is ever going to settle. I've seen far too many do it before me, only to have relationships that fail, or don't fulfill. I often wondered why it's so hard. Today, was a perfect reminder.
First, this might sound bitchy, so please know it doesn't come from a bad place. I don't typically "number" people, but there isn't really a more adequate way to get this story across. All of that being said, here we go:
I went to see a friend who bartends at a local bar, I was doing laundry, I had some lunch, and hung out with her. A guy came in, a mutual friend who is a great guy. Seriously, one of those guys that a girl would be lucky to have (once you get to know him). While he may not be a hottie, he has a heart that is BEYOND and is hilarious. My friend L - the bartender. She's about 25, and gorgeous. My friend T, the boy is about 34 and...well he has a good heart. You all get it. He's in love with her, and she has a line of men waiting to be with her. We all know he'll be waiting in line for FOREVER. Here's the really crappy thing... When I first met him, I thought that he wasn't a guy I'd be attracted to. "Not for me" I said. While he's a nice guy, a good guy, I just wasn't physically attracted. And, this same guy - you know, the one I considered not the guy for me (meaning not cute enough for me) is waiting in line for my friend. The girl many would consider, looks wise, a 10.
It's no wonder I'm single.
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It's posts like this that make me thank God I'm not single. I remember this story. I've lived through this exact same story.
ReplyDeleteLOL..I had to laugh at your story. You also have to recognize that your nice male friend is also 35 and single. Physical attraction is one thing but there has to be something more. We all would love to be with the hottie -- guys and girls. Who wouldn't? We're human? I've been physically attracted to many cute guys and then he opens his mouth, or does something stupid and that's it for me. I've tried to be more open lately and date the guys that I wasn't initially attracted to. Most of the time it hasn't worked out. It's the mutual attraction that is difficult to find. And then once you do find it figuring out how to avoid the game playing and just get on with it!
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard to be single and compete out in the single world! I was married quite young - at 19 and divorced at 36 but then single for 5 years. I hated that time. I constantly wondered why nobody was attracted to me. What I was attracted to was attracted to someone else. Only the weirdos were attracted to me and I was not willing to settle.
ReplyDeleteHappily I am now remarried. I stopped looking and found a wonderful man to marry. He was always a friend and I never thought of him in that way until he approached me about it. We will be married one year tomorrow!
The best part of this post...
ReplyDelete"I'm a beautiful, successful, funny, caring gal"
You are and I am glad you know, you rock. <3